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Co-Creating a Conscious Relationship

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Relationships fascinate me because the instant we interact we form a distinct connection, even if it’s just momentary. How willing are you to show up and be present for this interface? I find the variations within each correspondence to be a compelling and complex dance of everyday existence. The closer and more intimate we are, the more real a relationship becomes. How authentic and deep are you willing to go? Think about what initially draws you to another person – is it good looks, humor, great conversations, their quirky nature, intelligence, athletic ability, sex appeal, money, intrigue or loneliness? How […]

Create the Change You Want to Be

Indian creek meeting

I was recently in Durango, Co. networking with a half-dozen people who work for various organizations in the field of leadership and executive coaching. During my visit I felt as though I was on a treasure hunt, uncovering inspired individuals with unique talents who are masters of their craft. I felt a strong connection with these folks that was born of a shared vision to create a better future through authentic leadership, personal transformation and sustainable change. Topics that really get my juices flowing! To illustrate what I am talking about, consider how you respond in the following situations when […]

Wide Open Spaces

water and mountains

I have heard people say that it is our given right as a human being to flourish and be happy. When I look around the planet, I see a lot of people who are struggling to get food on their table, a roof over their head and clean water in their bodies. There are wars and environmental destruction. If I’m not careful I can become skeptical and question what our purpose here really is. Moments like this are when I pause to take stock and appreciate the beauty, freedom, and choices I currently have. I live in a place where […]

The Spirit of Christmas


The holidays tend to expand our capacity to open our hearts and feel compassion for all beings. It is here we experience the spirit of friendship, love and connection. We gather, we sing, we eat, we pray, we leave letters for Santa while we miss those who are distant and remember those who have passed. We remember to be kind, to be grateful for all we have, to give more than we think we have and to be of service to our neighbors. This, is the holiday spirit we are drawn to, a place we can rest and rejoice our […]

The Last Round

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For the past year I have been footloose and fancy free – not by choice, but in retrospect, by necessity. When I look at the coaching articles I’ve written they each speak to part of my story. Fragments of the poignant lessons I acquired on this last knock-down, drag-out round of my most recent relationship. As a result, I embarked on a solo journey with a one-way ticket into my soul. I took time to grieve, examine my repeated mistakes, admit to my quirky patterns and clarify just exactly what on earth I am looking for. Most importantly, I found […]

The Power of our Words

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What is it about the words we speak – to ourselves and others – that influences the effect they have on us? There are different ingredients present to include what the word means by definition, the intent behind its use and the energy of the exchange.   The science of Quantum Physics describes the vibratory nature of the world. At its basis, vibrations are energy – the spark of all life. To put this into context, a positive mood has a higher vibratory energy than a negative mood. This applies to our body language, as well as the thoughts that […]

Getting over Myself


How often have you taken a look at another person and thought you knew something about them? It’s common to size up people against ourselves and instantly form a judgment. We attach values of good or bad to someone’s appearance and instantly, we start to evaluate the person’s exterior instead of their behavior. We may even stack ourselves up according to our economics, education, looks, beliefs, awareness, practices or life experience and think to ourselves how this other person could “do” or “be” better. When we pay attention to this, we can see how automatic and unconsciously we do this; […]

Learning from your mistakes


We all make mistakes, but it is what we decide to do with those mistakes impacts us, and others, the most. Wouldn’t you agree the most profound and valuable education comes from our hard-earned and sometimes embarrassing lessons? Our strength of character emerges when we start to stumble: do we shamefully trip and fall, or do we pick ourselves up with humility and dust ourselves off? Hopefully, we are fortunate enough to have good role models who teach us that we can gracefully learn from our blunders and choose to not repeat them. How we react to a mistake is […]

The Important Distinction between ‘Wanting’ and ‘Longing’


The only way you will ever get what you want in life is to set your sights on something and go for it. It helps to start with an idea, put words behind it, commit to it by saying those words out loud and finally, creating action around it. What you desire in life comes about from your own free will and your hunger to actually accomplish it.  In America, we are fortunate to have a bounty of opportunities and experiences to choose to pursue. There is a difference in how you pursue these goals. It is one thing to […]

Relationships as a System


I have my way of thinking and you have yours, so what are the chances we will get along? I find this equation intriguing since there are an infinite number of possible combinations of human temperaments and personalities. We instantly click with some but not with others, yet we tenaciously pursue connections because it is human nature to want meaningful relationships. As a Life Coach, I am fascinated by what creates a successful bond and what doesn’t. More and more, I am aware of the care it takes to communicate well with our fellow homo sapiens. In a sense, we […]