Have you noticed when you do things the same way, you get the same results? This is fine as long as you are happy with the outcome. I have a client who is an artist and for years, she told herself she did not enjoy physical activity. This story supported being a self-proclaimed ‘couch potato’. In her forties, she took up climbing and discovered she is a gifted and motivated athlete. This realization has opened doors to competition, travel, new friends and opportunities she could not foresee from the couch. She no longer calls herself just an artist and enjoys [...]
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My beautiful dog Riley died two years ago today, I wanted to post this tribute I wrote for her soon after. Riley Girl March something, 2000 – April 18, 2010 Dogs have become “mans-best-friend” for a good reason. They appear to be more self-actualized, they do what we say, they follow us everywhere and best of all, they stand to teach us something if we are willing to listen. • be happy – ever notice that your dog is excited to see you even after you’ve been gone for thee hours or even three weeks? Being happy is actually a [...]
Have you noticed that we are on our best behavior around people we don’t know very well or are meeting for the first time? We naturally want to impress and create a positive image in hope that someone will pass along kind words on our behalf. It is challenging to keep this ‘front’ up, so the closer we get to people, the more we begin to act like our real self. It would be easier if being nicewas the place we chose to operate from all of the time. I find it conflicting to dance between being Dr. Jekyll and [...]
The greatest gift we can give another human being is our kindness. It is a sign of concern, understanding and generosity. It is the act of putting someone else’s feelings and well-being in front of our own. Kindness is the positive force of compassion, an energy that we always have access to and can choose at any moment. When we get caught up in our own internal process, it is hard to crawl outside ourselves and be available to others. It is a perfect antidote to our present unhappiness, hardship or problem. When we give to others, we actually emit [...]
For Faren. The truth is simple – choose the words that support what really happened. How often do we actually do this – tell the whole truth and nothing but the truth? This type of accuracy is easier than inventing little white lies, half-truths or other fabrications we have to keep track of. The fact is, the truth is much easier to remember and is imperative for trust! We convey part of what really happened in fear of getting in trouble, hurting someone’s feelings, concealing our less than noble actions or heaven forbid, being caught looking bad. Have you ever [...]
Conscious Communication: how we get our point across
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Dec.14,2011Each day we have countless opportunities to express ourselves and exchange information with others. In the dictionary, communication is the successful conveying or sharing of ideas and feelings. These interactions are in constant motion, taking shape as verbal and nonverbal messages. It makes me wonder how well we actually get our point across? Within a relationship, we develop patterns of communication that we practice over and over, until they become deeply ingrained and difficult to change. I was in a relationship where we created our own pattern; he got angry and talked loudly, hoping I’d hear him and I would [...]
My life has been devoted to challenging myself in the outdoors physically, mentally and emotionally. I thrive on long arduous days route finding in the mountains, pushing past aching legs and burning lungs, to reach a peak in the raging wind. The mountains continually dish out a variety of conditions that I have learned to adapt to; I find that the logical thing to do is dig deep and accept adversity. I know satisfaction when I make the most out of a potentially miserable experience and absolutely love it. Physical challenges give me an opportunity to test myself and get a [...]
On the anniversary of 9/11, I sat on an airplane reading the Economist to catch up on current events. It struck me how much chaos is presently going on in the world – page after page of economic crisis, war, natural disasters and the destruction of our environment. I put the magazine down to consider the condition of our society. Have you ever noticed that the majority of what is reported is bad news? I can’t help but wonder how this affects us each personally. When I feel over saturated by the headlines, it’s easy for me to feel discouraged [...]
Until recently, I’ve taken my lifestyle a bit for granted and simply attached the word “normal” to my wanderings. It never appeared unusual because I’m just little-ole-me in here, and there are plenty of other really cool people doing amazing things out there. Now, after 30 years, my resume looks a little unusual and I have finally come to grips with the fact I have not followed the mainstream. I have rarely paused along this journey to examine how and why I actually got here. When I started to look, I found one simple answer…are you ready for this? I [...]
It’s easy to take our health and our body for granted until an unexpected event alters the course of our habits, routine and daily activities. As with anything,we cannot fully appreciate this experience until it happens to us. At some point, we will each encounter an incident that will alter the pace of our life and inspire inward self-reflection. In April, this happened to me in a body surfing accident. I hit the sand and surfaced with a dislocated shoulder and a severely broken clavicle. What followed was my first surgery, an inability to move my shoulder for six weeks [...]









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